While I may seems quiet, I actually have a lot to say, I feel especially free to talk when I'm all by myself. The problem is that it is impossible for me to be "all by myself" and with another person simultaneously.
So I've "hypothesized this theory:"
To be able to talk to someone as comfortably as I do to myself, they have to register as nothing to me, and not in the sense that I think nothing of them, but rather that they are thinking not only of themselves, but also in what I have to say. In return, I would also need to mirror them, making myself a zero before their eyes, so that they can also share freely what is on their mind. Yet as we two zeros reveal our minds and hearts before each other we would not really be nothing, but rather equal values.
I thought of another visualization of this using the idea of a walking pace. Some people walk fast, some walk slow, some with long steps and some with short steps, but it is very difficult to walk at someone else's speed without putting forth any effort. Being a friend, in my eyes, is slowing down or picking up speed to walk side-by-side with the other person and listen to, not just hear, what they have to say.
My thinking on this is still rough, but that's really all I wanted to say.
I thought of another visualization of this using the idea of a walking pace. Some people walk fast, some walk slow, some with long steps and some with short steps, but it is very difficult to walk at someone else's speed without putting forth any effort. Being a friend, in my eyes, is slowing down or picking up speed to walk side-by-side with the other person and listen to, not just hear, what they have to say.
My thinking on this is still rough, but that's really all I wanted to say.
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